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 Bobby
is a pre-operative transsexual living on the east
coast of the USA. She knows only too well the problems
facing those that wish to change gender and she has
encountered her own fair share of prejudice, abuse
and obstructions. A friend of Crissy Wild she was
asked whether she would run this column and publish
her own thoughts which may be of help to readers of
this website. You are most welcome to contact Bobby
direct in order to request her commments on any matters
affecting changing gender and paticularly the issues
affecting transsexuals living in the USA.
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With
Some Battles Lost, the Fight for Equality Continues
November
2004
Despite a palpable sense of loss, transgender people and their gay,
lesbian, intersex and straight allies cannot afford to give up the
fight. The 2004 elections offered few bright spots, offering mostly
a beating suffered by those striving for equality. The election
results foretell a period of increasing neo-conservative and neo-fundamentalist
power that urges government to enshrine discrimination and intolerance
in the laws and policies of the land. Much will be written about
the losses, humiliations and hatred heaped on those who do not fit
the outmoded, unscientific and unchristian views of the powerbrokers
in politics and religion. This brief article will spare the reader
much of that rehash and focus instead on the way forward.
The National Transgender Advocacy Coalition (NTAC) Board of Directors
has begun shaping an updated strategy for winning transgender human
rights in a nation whose leadership does not believe in equal protection
under the law. This plan will take shape over the coming weeks and
will include a continuing call to action at the national, state,
local and individual levels. It will call for cooperation and sharing
of talents and intellectual resources among those organizations
whose fundamental objectives are fairness, tolerance, and respect
for all Americans, not solely for the rich, the arch-conservative,
and the aggressively strident.
“This Congress will be the most challenging we’ve ever
faced,” stated Vanessa Edwards Foster, Chair of NTAC. “We’ve
been living with this environment in Texas for the past few years.
From most of our friends in Congress, we will see a large measure
of fear as well as some aversion. For the few brave souls who stand
by us, they will need our support like never before – a protective
circling of the wagons.”
“On the flipside, we will see unchecked hubris as never before
at the national level,” Foster added. “With one party
holding leadership of every branch of national and a majority of
state governments, we must realize that they have an agenda and
will ardently move on it. For individual citizens’ and social
issues – including transgender issues – we can expect
a notable pushback. The ‘compassion’ agenda -- or ‘tough
love’ as it’s also known -- will be brutal and will
be applied to inflict the most damage possible.”
NTAC will act with other human rights organizations in common cause,
but transgender people must pick up the flag, the pen, and the sword
in the interest of our individual and collective health, safety
and prosperity. This is not the time to sulk or to slink back into
the closet, waiting for the sound of jackboots at the door. If we
do that, the forces of ignorance, bigotry and hatred win. It is
time for transgender people to be out, proud, active and demanding.
“The hopes of the anti-social-progress agenda are [to] demoralize
and kill their targeted opposition,” said Foster. “They
only win if we as a community succumb. Our only option is to redouble
our energy and push back even harder.”
It is time for us to act individually and together in our families,
our workplace, our churches, communities and states. We must act
bravely as if our lives and our futures depend on it. They do now,
more so than ever.
How
hard can one try?
Not
hard enough as a friend of mine knows. She is dying a slow death
but living with HIV. It goes up and down like a see saw. And she
is trying to transition too. I admire her faith and wishes. As we
all know one person cannot change the ways of our world and what
it stands for. It takes many to make a change for help and understanding
from the people who are supposed to be running this country. I look
at my friend and the things she knows about the world and the things
she knows how to do and I am amazed that this poor soul never is
going to get a chance to be accepted as who she is never mind the
way she is going to die.
Between HIV and Transponder her feelings are about shot down for
her life's wishes. And she hasn't the money to pay for all she needs
to live a full life. So she is just going to live her life the best
she knows how till that time comes. Please stand up for this world
in which we live and go to meetings for trangendered people if you
are and let your voice be heard that you are tired of the ways we
are treated for who we are. If we don't stand up for our rights
there will be no rights to stand up for. And one person alone can't
do this. And my friend that is living with HIV is also standing
up for her rights but there is only so much she can do at this time
in her life with all the pains she is in on a daily basis.
We are people and we do have the right to speak our minds. And without
the support of others, no one will ever get the help they really
need. Whatever State you are from please go to rally's and let your
Government know of the issues we have. And if we all stand as one
our voices will be heard loudly.
And I'll be looking for rally's going on this summer and posting
them as they come about. And if you hear of one please write me
and I will make sure it is legit and post it so you all know where
and when we can make a difference. Hugs to you all. Bobbie
Study
launched to document and gauge police abuse of transgender community
February
27,2004
For Immediate Release: Dated February 22, 2004
From: The National Transgender Advocacy Coalition (NTAC)
Contacts: Robyn Walters, Seattle, Washington
Chair, Vanessa Edwards Foster; Houston, Texas
Contact Email: ntacmedia@aol.com
media@ntac.org
Contact Phone: 832-483-9901
360-437-4091
Website: http://www.ntac.org
Study
Launched to Document, Gauge Police Abuse of Transgender Community.
International
human rights organization Amnesty International is currently looking
into police interactions with lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender
(LGBT) individuals and communities across the United States. The
National Transgender Advocacy Coalition (NTAC) urges the transgender
community to participate in this by providing any stories detailing
any misconduct or abuse.
The
research project was conceived by OUTfront, the Amnesty International
USA program dedicated to advancing and enforcing the human rights
of LGBT people, and builds on Amnesty International's historic and
current work documenting racial profiling and police brutality in
the United States. The research covers a broad range of police misconduct
and abuse, ranging from non-response and inappropriate responses,
to discriminatory targeting for law enforcement, to verbal, physical
and sexual harassment and abuse.
As
part of this project, Amnesty is asking LGBT people to share their
experiences with law enforcement. The organization wants to hear
from people from all walks of life across the country, and is particularly
interested in the experiences of LGBT people of color, youth, sex
workers, and transgender individuals who are especially vulnerable
to police misconduct. Complete confidentiality is guaranteed to
people who come forward to tell their stories.
Amnesty
researchers emphasize that it is important to document LGBT people's
experiences regardless of whether they think the officer or officers
involved knew about their sexual orientation or gender identity,
or of whether they think this affected how they were treated. They
also want people to know that there doesn't have to be a beating
or shooting for a person's story to be important to the research
- the point of the report is to find out how law enforcement officers
are treating LGBT folks across the board, whether they were the
target of a hate crime, they were involved in a same sex domestic
violence situation, or were harassed while walking down the street.
Finally,
Amnesty is looking for stories involving both good and bad experiences,
as positive experiences will help to identify "best practices"
and make recommendations for change. NTAC,
which met with Trine Christensen during the planning stage, applauds
the study being undertaken, calling it "needed, and long overdue."
The
report is scheduled for release in the summer of 2004, so please
contact Amnesty International with any information you may have
as soon as possible
For
more information about this project, or to submit your testimony
about your experience with law enforcement, please contact Trine
Christensen at (212) 633-4277 or tchriste@aiusa.org, or visit Amnesty
International USA's website at www.aiusa.org. Feel free to call
collect at (212) 807 8400.
What
is wrong??
February
27,2004
I was watching television today and on a show called Meet the press
Arnold Schwarzenegger the Governor of California was on. And he
was asked about how he felt on same sex marriage. And he said that
if I were to issue a license for same sex marriage I might as well
issue a license for people to buy assault rifles and also issue
a license for anyone to sell drugs.
These issues have nothing in common with a bonds of love. It doesn't
have nothing to do with the things that are wrong with our world
today. And now he wants to run for President?? Why? He doesn't even
know about a bond of love. Same sex marriage doesn't make our world
free from all the main problems we have faced in the past. It just
makes two people who care about each other happier and free to be
who they are.
Why doesn't the world see that we are people too? And understand
no matter what we are always going to be here!!
Back in the days of Adolph Hitler he wanted the Jewish race to be
wiped off the earth. But also a thing many people didn't know is
that when one was gay or transgendered he put them in the concentration
camps and make them wear a pink dress with a triangle on it and
they also faced the gas chambers. And if they wanted to be saved
from the gas chambers what ever sex they were they would have to
go to German doctors and get either male homones or female hormones
to make them be the sex they were born with. And they were also
forced to have sex with prostitutes of the opposite sex. And if
they had an orgasm they would be saved from the gas chambers. And
while they had sex they were watched by a German officer.
What kind of world would this be if we were all the same? And what
kind of world are we living in if we have the freedom of expression,
we should have the right to be who we feel we are inside no questions
asked.
As of now our world is faced with many problems and bigger ones
than same sex marriage should be faced and fixed. Marriage has nothing
to do with guns and drugs!! And same sex marriage is not a threat
to our world like guns and drugs.
These views are my own and have nothing to do with Crissywild.com.
And if you feel the same as I do about these things please call
your Senator or Congressman and voice your opinion. That another
thing we have here in the U.S. is freedom of speech. Thanx for listening
and please keep coming back to www.CrissyWild.com for all the information
you will need to be the person you feel you are inside. Hugs and
much love to all, Bobbie
It's
a hard life!!
February
27,2004
When growing up into a world you don't understand and feel as though
you are part of it all the time is not easy. The walls, the barriers
and the dead ends seem endless. But, there is hope and help out
there for us in the world we do live in. But finding it and being
able to afford it are two different subjects.
Many of us have grown up in a world that family members and friend
feel as though it is wrong and taboo. But little do they know we
are part of a growing society that is still growing slowing and
has been around for a long time. Some of us choose to live torn
between two lives, our man life and our feminine life. And the same
thing happens to women too. Women can be transgendered too. But
if we keep hiding it in the closet and looking at ourselves as freaks
we will never get it out into the mainstream of society and it will
always be looked upon as a disease. Not a normal fact of the human
race.
Read about it in books trangender and gay and lesbian relations
have been going on since as far back as the human race has been
on this earth. And it goes on in today. There were Kings and queens
and leaders of past civilizations that have done what we have. But
because of their status they were never looked down at.
So don't feel alone in this world. Seek the help you need to be
the person you feel as though you are and never stop cause if you
do it will eat away at your soul like the death of a loved one.
Even in the straight world the are walls and dead ends. But because
they are looked at as being normal they have help and most of the
time it is accepted.
So when you feel like being that person that is deep inside of you,
be that person and don't let anyone get in your way of it. And do
not stop cause this is a part of our lives. Take care everyone and
be proud of who you are and don't let anyone put you down cause
of it!! Love and hugs,Bobbie
Denver
Public Schools Protect Transgender Students
January
19,2004
The Denver Public School System (DPS) recently amended their policy,
stating that transgender and gender non-conforming students will
be protected under policies unanimously adopted by the school board
at its January meeting. The school board voted to add the term "gender
identity" to other categories protected under the policy that
declares "Equal Educational Opportunities" for students.
The
amended policy will read as follows:
"All
students within this school district regardless of race, color,
religion, sex, marital status, national origin, disability, sexual
orientation, or gender identity shall be entitled to the benefits
of a good education. To secure such benefits, the needs and aspirations
of all students shall be considered."
"We
were able to convince the school board that since the Denver City
Council had passed an ordinance that included transgender people
in anti-discrimination policies in 2001, that transgender students
in DPS should not be [covered by the city's non-discrimination ordinance]
on the streets of Denver, but lose that protection once they walk
through the doors of their schools," said local transgender
activist, Zia Klamm. "This was the real force in our presentation,"
added Klamm, who volunteers for Rainbow Alley Youth Center in Denver.
"They really got this."
"We
made a promise four years ago to get this done," said Keith
Lucero of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender Education Advisory
Council (LGBTEAC), "and now we've finally fulfilled that promise."
"Transgender
student safety in schools is a critical problem across the nation
- one that virtually no district in the country will recognize,
much less address," said Vanessa Edwards Foster, the chair
of the National Transgender Advocacy Coalition (NTAC). "Far
too often, students whose gender doesn't conform are mercilessly
harassed, threatened and assaulted, resulting in a pandemic drop-out
rate among transgenders.
"I
grew up in a Denver suburb and by middle school I was harassed and
physically attacked, sometimes as a daily event," related Klamm,
also an LGBTEAC member. Another Denver suburb was the subject of
intense media attention when two students from Columbine High School
- themselves targets of unchecked harassment - snapped and reacted
violently to years of abuse.
"When
I asked for help, adults told me it was my fault for these attacks
because I didn't 'act normal.' I did not know any other way to act,"
Klamm added. "By adding gender identity to the school policy,
my hope is that other kids will not have to go through the kind
of harassment that I experienced" she said.
"The
Denver Schools policy change shows a commitment to ensuring that
education of all its students is paramount," added Foster of
NTAC. "A safe learning environment is key to that."
The
LGBTEAC worked with advisors to DPS as well as lawyers from the
Colorado Legal initiatives Project (CLIP), for the past two years
on developing policies and protections for those students whose
gender expression is not traditional. NTAC praises both LGBTEAC
and the Denver Public Schools for valorizing education for all students
in Denver. LGBTEAC contributes to district aims to improve student
achievement, and to help provide a safe nurturing environment, which
all students need in order to learn and thrive.
Don't
be ashamed - Get checked
November
2,2003
I have been doing a lot of research on Aids and HIV in the recent
years and it seems to be getting worse than getting better. Everyone
if your gay or not please get checked for this dangerous disease.
It's getting to the point that this is not just a gay disease it
can also happen in the heterosexual society as well. And there are
really no warning signs until you have it full course. So it would
be to the best of your well being to get checked up every 6 months
for it. It's a simple blood test that can save your life. And now
if the virus is in certain stages they have a swab they wipe the
inside of your mouth with that can detect this killer of many good
people.
Your best way of prevention is to always wear a condom when having
any kind of sexual encounters. It does not matter if you have known
the person for years. Cause this disease can stay dormant inside
the body for 3 to 6 years before posing a threat to you and all
the people that you have been with sexually.
Worldwide, the virus continues to pose a long-term threat to the
stability of several world regions. In fact, a U.S. intelligence
report predicted that AIDS could become a national security threat
as HIV infection rates soar in the five most populous countries
by 2010
Our world has now become a breeding ground for all kinds of disease
and some can kill you and some we'll never have a cure for. As the
population grows the world grows more and more strains of viruses
that we don't have a clue about till it's too late.
And the more aware you are about diseases such as AIDS/HIV and the
more you protect yourself. The more you are protecting the future
of people on our earth. I know to many people on this earth that
have and also have lost their lives to this and other diseases.
So it's good to see a doctor and get a total physical and at the
same time with the privacy of your doctor you can also get checked
for many other things you would not know about unless you were in
the medical profession.
Visit the Site Aids
Section here
The USA must be in the Dark Ages
November
2,2003
I was talking to my girlfriend Roxy that is in transition and she's
been through hell and back. I am trying to help her realize that
there is help out there for us. She is seeing a therapist for depression
and she had mentioned that she is transgenderd. Well, the therapist
said that being transgenderd is a disease and that could help her
qualify for help from the government. This girl was walking the
streets homeless and now has found her way with my help back home
for a short period of time and once she gets the help she needs
she wants to be on her own.
It just goes to tell you how far back the U.S. is with people like
us. But there is help out there you just have to find the right
channels to get it. So now Roxy calls me up at least 3 times a week
to talk to me. She is a wonderful person just that the society we
live in here doesn't look at us as who we are!! And that is so sad.
Cause if we did and were able to get help our world would be that
much easier to live in. But in this day and age it comes down to
who has money and if you are one who has no money you just can't
find help. It's sad to see other countries give help to people like
us and in our own the so called, Land of the Free we get put back
in the closet.
Just have to tell you to seek out the right help here in the States
so that you can be treated for who you are!! Not what this society
want you to be. Thanx again for reading my column and e-mail me
or Crissy for advice and if I can't answer it I will forward it
to Crissy. Between the both of us and the website we can find you
help.
The
FDA and breast implants?
October
25,2003
What
is going on our country? In 1992 they banned silicone breast implants
and now all of a sudden the same companies that lost millions want
to get the FDA (Food and Drug Administration) to lift the ban. I
just wonder if many people care about their bodies or what?? If
you want to be a woman and think having breast implants are going
to make your one, well than your wrong. Women have hormones that
are totally different from a man. And many think that cosmetic surgery
is safe and easy. Well, my friends nothing in this world of transgender
is safe and easy. Just going out crossdressed can be dangerous.
But don't you girls remember the real women that sued Down Corning
for millions cause their implants ruptured? And would you want to
take that chance to have it happen to you? Myself, my life is too
important to take chances like that.
Now the FDA has to go through the government for permission to lift
the ban and they have to prove that they are safe. They did say
they have gone through 10 years of research and that they are safe
now. But if you are 20 and in 10 years your implants rupture who's
fault is it?? Things like this should be researched for at least
someone's lifetime. So if someone is going to get them they should
be guaranteed to be safe for your life!!
We here at www.crissywild.com just want you to be safe and understand
what has gone on in the past with implants and other such cosmetic
surgeries. I thank you for reading my column and for being our guest
here at www.crissywild.com. Keep coming to our site for you never
know what could be new here as we're always changing things for
your interest and pleasure. Thanx again Big Hugs, Bobbie
Being
transgendered isn't easy
October
1,2003
Many of us that are transgenderd find the help we need to be who
we are. And then there are many that just can't find the proper
help cause of the States we live in and also the money it costs
to become the person you feel within. But with many hours of research
and surfing the web there are very few places in the U.S.A. that
will take you on unless you have a ton of money. And that in many
of our eyes seems to be a big downfall. But, don't let it get you
down. Some of us move to other States to get the help that is needed.
And many suffer needlessly. We have to call our governments and
show that this is not a phase that we are going through if we really
want it. Some Doctors laugh at you when you say you have gender
dysphoria. And the ones who care will help in any way they can finding
support groups to start and, once you've gone through a support
group and they know you many of the people you meet there have contacts
that will help you whether you have a lot of money or not. Many
doctors work on sliding scales. But many States just don't see that
we are people too and cast you aside. Just keep trying if this is
the life you really want. And make sure your doctor you see is a
pro in his field. Not a quack!! Overseas there are many clinics
that will work with you.
Plus you must weigh out the risks involved in becoming a woman and
many of them are not pleasant! Please seek the right help and don't
give up until you've found the right doctor to help you.
Live
life and enjoy it no matter what!!
Please
people don't be depressed if you feel that you have Gender Dysphoria
and just can't seem to find help. Or if you've gone through HRT
and your doctor can't go on with SRS. Our lives are full of ups
and downs. And some of the downs really bring you to the point that
you think you don't want to be here anymore.
There are many of us that continue to live our lives as we are cause
of complications from Hormones, and even disease. I know a great
person who was on her way to being a total woman and was on HRT
and she got Type 1 diabetes. She had to stop taking HRT and she
was down and out that she couldn't go on to have the full surgery
to become the woman within. But she carries on life and does it
with a smile. I also know girls that get HIV and AIDS that can't
continue to transition their lives cause of the HIV or the AIDS.
These are people that need our help and support more than ever.
As we are all people we do deserve to live and enjoy our lives the
way we are. I know it is hard to deal with life at some points in
time and sometimes the downs outweigh the ups. But if you need help
see a health professional. If your doctor tells you, you can't continue
your transition please don't take your life!! We here at www.crissywild.com
want to advise our readers to continue your lives no matter what!!
We won't think any less of you for the problems you have within
you. We all face problems at some point in time and many of us do
know how to deal with it and there are many of us that want to take
our lives. We want you to continue your lives with respect.
I just read an article of a girl Michaela that took her life cause
she could not go on to being the woman that she wanted. And sis
we shall all miss you. Even if we do not know you, you are one of
our people in this world and want to keep you in our hearts. Michaela
took her life cause she was told by her doctor that she could not
go on with HRT and could never have SRS cause her liver was damaged
from the HRT so she overdosed on pain pills and they found her dead
in a park. This here is the type of thing that makes us all sad
in our community. Know matter who you are if your a part of our
community we do love you and want to see you and hear from you.
I also have a friend Julie that is living with a HIV+ life and she
does this with a smile. And continues to research and read everything
she can on her disease. But that doesn't stop her from being the
loving caring person that I had known when she was a man. I know
it is hard sometimes to control our inner feelings!! But we have
to learn to do so!
Just because you can't continue your journey into womanhood doesn't
mean many of us will love you any less. So please, all of our sisters
no matter if you have just started HRT or are just thinking of wanting
to be a woman we do love you. And there is support in every corner
of the world for us. It's not what you look like on the outside,
it's how you are on the inside that counts. And if you feel unloved
or unwanted in life please seek help. There are ways that we all
can continue our lives as people no matter what happens. And to
me that is more important than taking your life!! So live life with
dignity even if there are things you can't have or do. It hurts
us here to lose anyone in our community. And we will all miss and
still love you Michaela even if you are gone!!
These opinions and thoughts are just the way some of us feel. We
want you to listen to your health professionals. Cause they are
the ones who know what is going on in your body. And if it takes
you to stop certain things, we won't love you any less.
I
know life is hard
We
all know life is hard and it's even harder when you have Gender
Dysphoria!! We as people have to choose what we want to be and it
is harder for the older person to transition than it is for one
who is younger. If you have had to hide this from everyone you know
and think it's weird to be this way just don't do it. I know better
said than done. But if you want to become another sex in this day
and age it's possible to do so. So by all means go for it. When
we get older we know more people and it's harder for us to transition
without losing a loved one or many so called friends.
This is your life and by all means do what you have to do to make
it a good one for yourself. Don't worry what others say. They don't
know what goes on inside our heads and what stresses we face on
a daily basis. And the more comfortable you are with yourself the
more enjoyment you will get out of life. We are not here for long.
So don't put this on the back burner approach it with pride and
seek out a therapist and tell them you don't want to be the sex
you are and tell them of your life and the things you've done. And
then the Therapist can get you a doctor to get you on hormones for
your problems and other meds that might be needed. Life is to short
to put things like gender problem aside and let them boil inside
of you all your life. Cause sooner or later it's going to come out.
And I'll tell you when you start off by telling people in which
you trust about your life most of them will stick with you. And
many will say Wow this persons a freak I don't want nothing to do
with this one anymore. But little did your old friends know that
you are the same person just don't have the same looks and mannerisms.
Take pride in your well being get checked up for Aids and HIV every
3 to 6 months if you are engaged in sexual activity and also don't
be afraid to tell a doctor what and how you feel. This is most important.
Just one simple check up could save your life and could make it
much happier too. And don't be afraid of getting a second opinion.
It's your right.
One more thing, write to your governments in your country or states
and tell them that there are many of us people living our lives
in a lie and we need help but it's not easy to get help where I
am. And write to any organization in your area for help. And don't
stop till you have found the right help and you are pleased with
your life. We only live once so be yourself and don't lie to yourself.
This is our life. Take it seriously!!!
Your
friend Bobbie
Write me with any questions you would like but be nice or you won't
get an answer.
And never give up on what you feel inside!!!
Silicone
injections are a No No!!
Doesn't
anyone remember when the major companies that made silicone breast
implants got sued for the implants rupturing in many women's breast
and causing the people who got them to become disfigured or die??
Well, now I read an article on the website www.planetout.com that
some of you girls are going out and getting injections of silicone
in your butt cheeks and your breasts. And many of these people are
dying. Please be aware of what you do to your body before you go
for it. Do research on these things and get second opinions from
doctors and please, please don't go see a quack doctor for such
a thing. Make sure your doctor is a pro in the field of whatever
you have done or are about to have done. We don't need people dying
just to get a rounder butt or bigger breasts!! We at www.crissywild.com
want you to know these things are going on in our world and if you
have a computer and have access tot he Internet please research
these things. And if you don't have a PC please make sure you're
seeing the correct doctors for such things. Silicone injections
are worse that Hormone replacement therapy. And if you do not die
from such injections they can leave you disfigured for life. And
what good would that be!!!
So please if you have a friend or a relative that is thinking of
doing this please get them to read this!! This is not right what
these quack doctors are doing and if someone says I know someone
that will do it cheap. Please realize that this might just be some
kind of fraud and could really take your life and if not leave you
disfigure for your life. And many of your quack doctors that will
do such an ugly thing will always move on after you have these things
done and they get their money. Never to be seen again. And some
work with fake licenses. So make sure who you are seeing has a reputation
and is a master at what they do. It's your right!!! Thanx again
everyone for reading my column. And please if you need advice please
call on us here at www.crissywild.com. We here at www.crissywild.com
do research on many things and do want to protect our faithful readers.
A
word about chatrooms ... there's good and bad in everyone
I
just recently joined a chatroom for support cause we all need support
at sometime or other in our transition. Well, I went to this chatroom
on my Internet and my first visit there was terrible. They treated
me like I was a nobody. And then I met a few sisters there that
were beyond great. They opened up to the group and told them that
this is a support group and she needs support!! Why not give some
to her. Well, a week later I find there are still the girls there
that forgot what they went through to get where they are. And that
when you are a part of such a group you should treat each other
with respect!! Well, I would be there and a few unpleasant girls
would say that I annoy them and also say things like you are not
wanted here. I still continued to chat with the sisters that accepted
me and now I am getting letters from some of the sisters saying
I am an inspiration to them, cause of what I have gone through in
my life and still carry on with a smile.
You know they do say if you kill someone with kindness it will go
a long way. And that is just what I do there. The ones that do not
like me there, I am kind to and do my best not to get upset nor
do I put anyone down. And if there is too much friction going on
in the room I then tell them that I have noticed the friction going
on there and that I am leaving. And before I leave I also send love
and hugs to everyone. Even if they don't like me.
So girls that have gone through transition and are now a full time
women please respect ones sorrows and remember what it was you went
through when you needed help and how many others came to your rescue.
As we know our life is not always perfect and others that have gone
through what you have gone through need help too. So if you are
a part a such a group please be kind to one another!
Our lives are very important and we should respect one another's
problems and help them as much as we can. If you can't guide them
to the right resources just give them a kind word and remember what
it was that you went through before you became a total woman.
I thank you for listening to my views and thoughts. And if you need
help we at www.CrissyWild.com are here for you. And we are also
one of the best sites for information on the Internet. And if you
do happen to write to Crissy or myself, please be kind and we will
answer you if we have time.
Hormones
Can Be Dangerous
Please
be advised the if one has feelings of being Gender dysphoric, please
do not take hormones without a doctors supervision. We may all think
that hormones will change your looks and appearance but they can
also kill you without the right doctors to look at you and check
out your liver enzymes and also for breast cancer. And other side
effects that can happen. When you take them on your own, you are
on your own when and if one of these risks do happen to appear.
We as sisters here at crissywild.com stress that hormones can hurt
you and do not ask you to take them without a doctors supervision.
Many people who have been through the correct doctors and hormones
are still not pleased with their looks and hurt themselves and even
more!!
Our family here is one of truth and love. We will try not to let
any of our friends do the wrong thing. If you think it's fun to
go out with the girls one night and get all dressed up, do it with
caution and know where you are going and who you are with. To many
of our sisters have been hurt and beaten up just because someone
doesn't like the way they look.
We cannot guarantee that all of us that have gender dysphoria will
come out of the closet and become a woman or a man. This is up to
you as a person. To seek the right Doctors and Therapists that know
this area of ones life. Please do not do it on your own!! These
things happen every day in someone's life if they do not take the
right steps. So please for all of us here at crissywild.com do the
right thing. Ask many questions and don't stop until you get the
right answers. Life is to short to play with ones life. And if one
is going to want to make changes see the right people. Thanx again
for reading and we will have many more topics to fill in the days
to come.
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A
friends fight for life and self being
I
know a person who was a male and wanted to be a female. But she
lived in the U.S. and in the U.S. if you have Gender Dysphoria you
have to pay for it. This person her woman name was Julie. Has been
searching for years for help even a group or someone the would help
her. And then to top it all off Julie contracted HIV. Even though
Julie wanted to be a female she still liked the female sex. And
disliked males. Well, I was really sad for Julie she needed help
in a big way. And all I could do was guide her to go to a clinic
and get on HIV meds. She did and till this day she is fine but still
lives as a male one half the day. She is still seeking help for
her Gender Dysphoria but she lacks the money to see the correct
doctors and get on the right medications.
In some countries they have clinics where it is free for HIV testing
and free for meds. But for the one who has Gender Dysphoria it's
another story. You need money for the doctors and the meds.And this
is very costly. I do wonder why this is like this in the U.S. HIV
meds and testing costs money and so do other things. And there are
clinics for it all over the U.S. And all the testing is free as
are the medications. And there are many other things in the U.S.
that are free going through certain clinics. But not gender dysphoria.
I talk to Julie on a regular basis. And she gets tested for HIV
every 3 months. And take pills twice a day to keep the virus down.
In case you didn't know, stress can make the HIV virus grow and
become resistant to the meds.And to go through gender problems all
your life on top of HIV is a very stressful life. So I and other
girls that I know have been looking for ways to relieve Julie of
her life's stresses. We try to make her happy and accept her for
who she is. And we are trying to stick with her even though she
has HIV she doesn't have the plague. And you can still live with
an HIV+ person if you and that person take the right precautions.
When Julie first contracted HIV she was sick, but I stuck with her
cause she was my friend. Many of her so called friends and family
disowned her. But with all she has faced in her life and to get
topped with HIV is one time in someone's life they need all the
care you can give. One thing Julie has told me is she refuses to
have sex unless it's with herself. Cause this is where she got HIV.
And I accept that from her too. She has taken her life one day at
a time and lives life like tomorrow will never come. So please in
your life and travels be careful with sex. Julie and I have become
better friends now than I have ever knew. Now all she wants is to
be Julie full time and she thinks her life will be complete.
So
please the next time you meet someone that has HIV or is different
from you. Please don't throw stones. Cause we are all people on
this earth. And we are not all perfect. And there are to many people
searching for a perfect life when realistically there is no perfect
life. Just what you and your loved ones help and support you with.
Take care everyone and enjoy life is one of Julie's favorite says.
We are only here for a short time. So live life and enjoy.
Hugs to you all and thank for reading. If you have any comments
please write me. And I'll try to reply to each and every one of
you.
We
are people too
If
we as transgender people want to be a community we should help our
fellow sisters. We have gone through enough in our lives trying
to find ourselves. And it does seem that once a sister gets to be
the person they are. They could care less about giving some guidance
and help to the ones that are just realizing that they have Gender
Dysphoria. We as people hurt all our lives!! Give a hand to our
sisters in need. Work with each other don't try to make you be the
center of attention. If we as a part of societies never changing
rules want to be noticed,we should help each other with love and
even if we are not passable please give us respect.
We have spent our lives wondering who we are. And we seek help and
most of us get the help we need. But when someone knocks at your
door and is in dire need of help and love and the things we went
through when we were just starting out. Well now's the time to give
it back. The more we work together as a community the more we will
be noticed and accepted in this crazy world. Plus the more we stick
togther and speak out to our governments about what we are going
through just like the Gay and Lesbian commnuity. They have spoken
out more over the years and gotten more respect than our community.
I
respect what we as a part of our free world have. But I know if
we worked together we could have more rights and medical help. Thanx
so much for reading my column. And please stick together with love
and respect. We are all people too!!
One
of my girlfriends told me of her life
My
girlfriend Jamie told me the other day about her life growing up
with Gender Dysphoria. She told me when she was very young her two
sisters use to play dress up together with her and dress her, at
that time was him(James). Till one day their Mom came home and said
to the two girls to stop playing dress up with James!! The two girl
obeyed their Mom and stopped. Then Mom came into James room and
said you have to stop playing with your sisters like that. And this
has to stop now!!! James replied!! Why Mom?? I am only having fun
with my two sisters that I love. She tuned to James and handed him
a GI Joe doll and some clothes and said here play dress up with
this. James lost his mind!! Didn't know what to think!! But Mom
why do I have to play alone and my sisters get to have fun together
and I'm all by myself here in my room with a stupid doll? Mom replied,
Your a boy and boys don't play dress up with girls. James didn't
know what to think. So during the day in his room he'd play like
a boy. But at night James had a storage chest in his room where
Mom stored all the off season clothes for the girls. James was always
in hand me down boy clothes.
So
Late at night James turned into Jamie. Sneaking into the chest and
grabbing some clothes that were his sisters and dressed up for bed.
This was when Jamie was 7 years old. And as time went on James would
go into his sisters room and take a pair of panties and a bra when
there was no one home and dress in them till they came home. Well,
37 years later James is now Jamie and a very good friend of mine.
She talks openly about the life she had with no Dad and really no
friends to play with. Cause they were all older than he was. And
so in time James became Jamie. But in time it took money, slander,
and abuse from other that thought James was a freak of nature. And
he was beat up and called names. But Jamie carried on with her venture
to become who she knew she was inside. And now most of that is in
her past. But she still comes across people that call her a freak
of look at her in a laughing manner. But she has learned to accept
who she is and learned to tolerate what people say and think. But
she still complains to me about how she was cursed at on her way
over and people would drive by her and yell at her saying, HEY FREAK!!!
These people bother her. She told me she was worried one day these
people would harm her. So I told her to find a friend like me or
someone else to walk with her when she goes out.
She
now goes out with me and some of our friends and when these people
ride by they say nothing. See people!! If you are by yourself you
can be treated differently than if your with others. So don't go
it alone. This is why we as sisters have to stick together. So friends
like Jamie won't be in harms way and we can be a community of one.
Thanx again for reading. If you would like to respond to me or have
any comments on my friends or yourselves.
Please write me and I'll try to write back to all of you. But of
your comment is rude or nasty in any way?? Forget any answers or
replies!! Hug your sisters and show them you love them!!
 
A
Friend finds love
Last
night the girls and I were sitting down to a nice glass of iced
coffee just talking about different things. Life the world and of
course Guys!! And ourselves. And My girlfriend Kim had told me something.
Now she's just coming out so I still accept her as one of my friends
and sisters. She had said the she was at home in drab (YUK!!). And
her cousin came over. She was so proud she had got a job working
for a newspaper doing advertising. And the paper was a well known
paper. And then she had told her cousin about one of the people
there asked her who she was and she going by the name of Kim for
so long she forgot and with a very fem voice said, Hi my name is
Kim and totally forgot she hadn't been around the real world in
a while. The girl said KIM?? Opps she covered her mouth and said
I'm sorry my name is David. The girl looked funny at her. So at
break this girl sat down with Kim and said I don't mean to intrude
but do you mind if I sit with you? Kim real name David said no not
at all have a seat!! They got to talking and this girl had asked
Kim why did you say your name was Kim? David blushed and said, I'm
sorry but I'm in transition and I forgot I was at a new place. The
girl said OH that's OK!! But what is transitioning? David said oh
I'm so sorry I'm really a pre-op transsexual. And the girl with
a big smile said come on really? She said I really love your company
and asked if she could sit with him the next day. He said sure I
would be delighted!! Before work was over she had come up to David
tapped him on the shoulder and whispered into his ear and said Kim
do you mind if I call you Kim between you and I? Kim (David) looked
up very surprised and said sure not at all, not at all and smiled.
She said I'm so sorry I forgot to tell you my name and said my name
is Debbie. I'm sorry I imparts you. She said not at all I am getting
use to all this and it's quite hard after being out of work and
hanging out with all my girlfriends. Debbie said you hang out with
your girlfriends? Kim said yes and most of them use to be men too.
She had asked do you mind if I ask if we can be friends? Kim said
to Debbie no I don't mind at all!
Well, that day had ended and on her way to her car Debbie yelled
out HEY KIM!! Kim asked Debbie what she wanted. She had said to
Kim I want to know if one day your friends and I could hang out
just like you do and I'll be able to see you all dressed up.
Kim smiled and said sure I don't mind one bit why don't you come
over to my place at 8 tonight we are all getting together to just
sit down and celebrate my new job and it would be so cool that I
gained a friend on the first day to have you there. So Kim gave
Debbie her address and they exchanged phone numbers.
Later that night right at 8 a knock came on the door. Kim was just
about dressed up and asked who was there at the door. It's Debbie
your new friend from work. At that time none of the girls had gotten
to Kim's house yet. Kim opened up the door and said Hi Hon!! And
Debbie's eyes opened up and went WOW!!! Your so pretty!! Kim blushed
and said I'm not done with my make-up yet come on in and have a
seat. Debbie asked, do you mind if I help you put on your make-up?
Kim said no not at all come in the bathroom.
In Kim's mind she was saying WOW I hit it off with someone right
away and was very proud of the fact that Debbie accepted her for
her and not David. Well, the night went well and Debbie was saying
good night to Kim and said I'll see you tomorrow at work right?
Kim said yes you will, and thank you so much for coming over and
meeting my friends it was so nice of you to sit down with all of
us and be one of us too. Debbie said, I loved it and it was a great
experience too thank you Kim and gave Kim a kiss on the cheek and
said good night Hon I'll see you in the morning.
Well, Kim went to bed and as she was laying in bed the phone rang
about a half hour later. Kim answered and it was Debbie. She said
Kim I really want you to know I had a lot of fun with you and your
friends tonight and I'd love to do it again. And she said I'd like
to take you out one night to eat if you want to come out dressed
with me. Kim was amazed and said sure Hon you make the date and
I'll be there.
Well, needless to say two weeks had gone by and Kim and Debbie became
real good friends going out together and just having fun enjoying
what us girls enjoy and Debbie said this is the most fun I have
had with anyone in my life and Kim I hope you don't mind me saying
but your one great person and I like you more as Kim than David.
And then she asked, why don't you come to work dressed up. Kim said
no way not just yet. It would be to harsh on me I just started and
the people all know me as David and know me as a man. And then Debbie
came out and asked if Kim liked men or women? Kim replied to her
and said, I like women why do you ask? Debbie said I think I'm falling
for you Hon in a way that I never knew I'd ever fall for anyone.
Kim was in aww and said WOW this is a great feeling I'm coming out
and a woman likes me and thinks she's falling for me.
Another week went by and Kim and Debbie were together every day
and night. And that night was the night we all met and sat down
and first met each other for the first time cause I had been away
on a business trip. and I was amazed at relationship they both had.
It was truly remarkable. I told Kim she had met a one of a kind
woman and to just be herself. Kim said to me I have been myself
since day one. And this is how we both hit it off. I told Kim you
are one blessed woman and I gave her a hug and said sis I think
your going to like what is going to happen to you in time.
Well, this just goes to show you that people are people and it doesn't
matter who or what you are Love is always somewhere. And when you
least expect it, it comes to you. And till this day they are still
together and enjoying life. And I think it's wonderful.
Thanx so much for reading my column and hope you come back for more
and write me I will answer all replies if I can and if they are
in a respectful manner.
We are doing this to ourselves!!
I
look around the world today and I see so much hate, prejudice, violence,
killings and greed and I wonder where our world is going too. It
hurts my heart to see all these things going on, on our earth. Why
can't people learn to love one another and give peace. Instead we
have all this. In a sense we are all just killing ourselves for
what?
I think life is important so it should be saved from all that is
going on. But really now the way we are going the whole world is
in a crisis. And if it doesn't stop now it will only get worse and
worse till we wipe out the human race off the planet and maybe take
the planet away from the solar system. We are all people no matter
who we are what we are. But it just seems that no one will try to
give peace a chance on our earth. We are over building taking away
what this earth needs to survive. We are polluting the water and
skies that feeds our earth. If we are at all people and want life
to continue all these things have to slow way down. Or stop!!! Cause
life as we know it will be gone in no time at all.
I know this topic has nothing to do with our Gender!! But these
are just my feelings. We are the animals that are destroying this
earth and it's way to sad!! There are to many things out there that
are getting way out of hand. And if we don't act now our earth will
look like the moon!! With nothing on it but dust and rocks.Maybe
this is a symbol to tell us to take care of what we have here. Our
lives are getting way out of hand!!
Not a soul will ever be who they want to be if all these things
keep on going on. Maybe our community can make it wake up and see
that love and peace and care is the answer.
I'm sorry to get off topic to what this site has to offer but this
is one thing I think people should read. So they can look around
and see what our reality is turning into!!!
A big nightmare!! Well, I promise the next topic will be on our
gender and to help others. But if our lives don't wake up soon we'll
look like the moon!! Give life a chance. Stop all these crazy things.
And our world will be around for many peoples children to enjoy
and see what a great place this earth can be!
Story
of a Drag Queen
I
was on a chat line a couple weeks ago and I happened to talk and
become friends with a girl named Roxy a Drag Queen. She is a dear
person!! At first we talked about life and how hard it is here in
the U.S. to get the help you need and to get a job working as a
woman when you are a man. Roxy told me she likes men. And with her
problems she drinks Whiskey all day to dampen the pain she has inside.
She will not go out alone. And I don't blame her. Then I asked her
what she did for money? She told me she sold herself to men for
money. I told her of the risks of HIV and she replied I have to
do what I have to do to survive. She has many of the same wishes
as me. She wants society to accept her for who she is and if she
could find a good job and people wouldn't make fun of her she'd
go for it. But as for now she hates what she does but it pays the
bills in minimal time and she never leaves the house.
This girl truly had me crying!! Why does society accept Gay and
Lesbians and still doesn't accept us? This girl Roxy had a good
head on her shoulders by the way she talked to me. But she was just
afraid of the ways society treated her. I get that all the time
but I walk with my head high. But, there are times when it just
gets a little too offensive. I look at Roxy and wonder why her and
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